Let me tell you a story. Once at a party, I had all the little girls sitting around me and I was asking them about their favorite parts of all the princess movies. The birthday girl was sitting next to me, and tells me, “Princess, your skin is the same color as mine.” I smile and agree, and try to move the game along, but she interrupts and says, “Your skin is brown and you’re a princess. It’s the same color as mine, but you’re a princess.”
“Well, if my skin is brown and your skin is brown, and I’m a princess, then you must be a princess too.” I tell her. And then I spent the next 10 minutes assuring all the black girls at the party that yes, they have lovely skin and yes, they can be princesses with me.
This happens at most of the parties I go to. I have had my arm stroked, my hair patted, my skin color commented on more times than I can remember. I am not simply hired out to entertain a bunch of cute little girls dressed in poofy skirts who want to play with a big girl in a poofier skirt. I am hired out because I am an affirmation. For these little black girls (and boys! I’ve dazzled a few of them too) Princess Tiana is proof that for once, they can be special BECAUSE of the color of their skin, not IN SPITE OF.
Adding some of her pictures for emphasis.
This made me cry. This is what we’ve done to these innocent little girls. This is what happens when we treat white beauty as default. These beautiful children should grow up KNOWING they are beautiful and can be princesses.
Ohhhhhh I’ve been waiting for the day someone would say this.
Dear anon, When I claim to be a feminist, I am not one of those “white feminists” who want to liberalize everyone by forcing women to walk around naked. Islamic feminism is the opposite actually, because we PROTECT ourselves from the gawking and staring of sexist men.
Unlike white feminists, who are victims of femen (which btw was found by a man) we don’t give in to the reverse psychology of the patriarchy. It’s really simple how it works: rich white guy tells women their only worth is their bodies, so logically these women want to show that their bodies are something men should get used to and thus walks round naked. Rich white guy wins.
Now in Islam we don’t let the rich white guy, or any other guy win for that matter. Rather than parading around naked, we show off our personality because that’s what ACTUALLY has value. Just like we cover to protect ourselves from these sexist men, men in Islam are also commanded to lower their gaze and not stare at women. Men are also told to grow out their beards, and to wear loose clothing as to not attract physical attention either.
Islam teaches us that men are not superior to women. Actually, we are taught that paradise is beneath the mothers feet, that your wife completes half your religion, and that the treatment of your daughter is what opens the gates to paradise.
The prophet also teaches men that “the best of you are those who are best to their wives”
And if you don’t believe all that, here’s a verse straight from the Quran: “O you who believe! You are forbidden to inherit women against their will.” The same verse goes on to say “…live with them on a footing of kindness and equity” [noble Quran 4:19]
What you need to understand anon is that Islam TELLS men to deal with women as equals, to treat them with respect and honour and value them. The stories we hear these days about Muslim men are actually stories of men doing things AGAINST Islam.
Don’t look at Muslims to learn about the religion, look at the fundamentals of the religion to learn about it.
Islam does not allow a girl to be forced into marriage Islamically a girl has to approve of the man before she is married to him, and the sheikh doing the marriage contract is supposed to ask her if she approved Islam does not tell women they are inferior to men Islam does not tell men to treat women as a lower class Islam does not forbid women of being educated Islam does not forbid women from driving The list goes on and on
My point is all these sexist things you see come from old culture, and when you look into the religion, Islam is against it.
So anon, please educate yourself before you assume that Islam and feminism don’t work together because in fact they go hand in hand.
Also, don’t assume that white feminism is the only feminism.